Catch Lies

Anyong haseo!

I am attending a 3-days course at Buona Vista - investigation interviewing technique. Isn't it really sounds 'unlike' me? investigation? interview people? Yes, my job need me to do that, and I has seen many different kind of faces during the interview, angry, upset, confident, quarrel, messy, crazy, hiding, arguing, fear, playful or cooperative.

It was really interesting to learn how to catch lie. How do you know someone is telling you a lie? We did some case studies and tested on ourselves in the class, it really suprised me. Language is no longer the best way to detect the truth, but, our emotion, body language and microexpression on the face will betray you.

A survey in US showed that 91% of people tell lies EVERYDAY. Those lies are normally white lies, ie. lies with the good intention. For example, instead of ugly you say cute, instead of annoying you say interesting. Having said that, lies is a art, and it is a social technique that we must acquire. The trainer said something that really gave me a blink: if you do not lie, and keep catching people for lieing, you will be alone slowly. In other words, what you have learn in this course, you should practice it in your job, but do not practice on your family, friends and others!

Wah.... I find it very hard to continue in English.

可是我想能够了解别人的肢体语言和注意脸部细微的表情，你可以更容易的和人相处，甚至可以提早补救。优越的记者，演员（如梁朝伟）和主持人，或许都是这方面的天才。还有，刚才说到谎言是生活的必需品，其实我们都有能力看穿身边的人在撒谎，只是人本能的，不希望人骗他，下意识的相信别人，尤其是重要的人所说的话（注意，这里说的是‘话’罢了）。关心在乎一个人，其实不只是听，还有关心他的body language吧。不要有一天发现自己被最相信的人骗了，才觉得自己是被背叛又可怜的受害者。

事实上，有谁没有骗过人，有谁没有秘密？

如何通过盘问来看穿谎言？在这里很难‘写’出来。哈哈，其实是我有点不耐烦想去看我的戏了。

Anyonghi Geseo!